There’s something about May the Fourth that brings a little spark of magic into the day. Maybe it’s the nostalgia, the playfulness, or the reminder of a much-loved story from Star Wars, where ordinary people discover an extraordinary force within them. And today, I want to gently suggest something: Your child has a force too. Not a sci-fi power… but something just as real; a natural ability to settle, to reconnect, to feel safe again.

When your child is dysregulated, telling them to calm down won’t work. Not because they’re not listening. Not because they’re being difficult. But because they can’t access calm on their own in that moment.