There’s something about May the Fourth that brings a little spark of magic into the day. Maybe it’s the nostalgia, the playfulness, or the reminder of a much-loved story from Star Wars, where ordinary people discover an extraordinary force within them. And today, I want to gently suggest something: Your child has a force too. Not a sci-fi power… but something just as real; a natural ability to settle, to reconnect, to feel safe again.

When people talk about co-regulation, they often imagine a parent staying calm while their child is in distress. And yes, that calm presence, like an anchor in a storm, is vital. But co-regulation is more than just being calm for your child. It's about being their safe person and their safe place. Because emotional safety is the foundation of all connection. It’s only when a child feels truly safe that they start to open up.